Welcome to 2008! This an open letter to all of my same-gender-loving brothers.
As we begin the New Year we should all take an honest look at the various ways in which we meet each other. Let's start with being truthful with ourselves.
First, who hasn't wanted to have a wild and passionate love affair with some type of trade you've met on the streets? Over the years I, too, have had my own personal experiences that went wrong, and have heard endless stories from men of every race who have spent a great deal of their time, energy and efforts in search of finding trade—cruising clubs, parks and even the Internet in search of finding the right one.
So I hope that my editorial will server as an official wake-up call to all our readers that the risqué phenomenon of men wanting trade as their 'desired' choice has placed gay relationships in an extremely compromising position because picking up trade has become deadly! Gone are the days of meeting trade who you thought would be converted into an instant relationship while you both took care of your sexual healing needs in the process. It's unfortunate the 'one' just might end up killing you.
I must warn you that there's a new crop of trade working out here. The new trade are guys who are not necessarily gay in their sexuality but are modern-day hustlers who are oftentimes young; extremely masculine; built with muscles; and are usually broke and just trying to survive day to day. They don't believe in loyalty to anyone but themselves and they aren't really trying to be honest with you. They tend to seek men who look prosperous and are in search of a genuine relationship.
I hope I'm not offending anyone or stepping on any toes here with my bold statements, but I can't stand by any longer in silence watching so many of my same-gender-loving brothers lose their lives over some worthless trade. Picking up trade is dangerous, people—point blank! Most of these guys are irresponsible and often display disrespectful behavior and actions towards you from the very beginning of your relationship, but you continue to ignore all of the warning signs because he's some hot trade.
From one brother to another I'm just telling you all to please be careful in the company you keep, because you never know what kind of person you are letting into your world and just how the story will unfold. Here's wishing all of my GBLT family members a happy new year that will be filled with purpose, integrity and a love for self and your fellow man.
Chat Daddy is a nationally syndicated relationship advice columnist. You can reach him at talk2chatdaddy@comcast.net .