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New guidelines for same-sex parenting and custody
by Dana Rudolph, Keen News Service
2011-09-14

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Some of the most contentious lawsuits involving the rights of LGBT people have occurred when the biological parent of a child uses anti-LGBT laws to try and deny the child's non-biological parent custody or visitation. But several LGBT legal organizations have published a revised set of standards aimed at stopping such behavior, and they're hoping parents and attorneys will take a pledge to abide by them.

The publication is Protecting Families: Standards for LGBT Families, produced by Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD), the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) and NCLR's National Family Law Advisory Council. It encourages lawyers to support and respect LGBT parents even when legal rights do not, and advises parents and lawyers to honor children's relationships with both parents, seek custody resolutions that minimize conflict, and use litigation only as a last resort.

Mary Bonauto, the director of GLAD's Civil Rights Project, authored the original version of the standards in 1999. She said the intent of the document is to urge same-sex parents to use whatever parental protections are available in their states, "for the sake of your children."

These protections may assist with issues such as medical decision-making, but may also help maintain both parents' relationships with the children when the couple breaks up.

The revised document is updated to reflect new laws in several states recognizing the relationships of same-sex couples, whether through marriage, civil unions, or domestic partnerships. But it cautions that same-sex parents should not rely on such laws to protect their parental relationships with their children.

"[W]e still have a huge architecture of discrimination" against same-sex relationships," said Bonauto. Many states do not recognize them at all or may not treat them in the same way as opposite-sex relationships. This may jeopardize the relationships of non-biological, non-adoptive parents to their children.

Even in Massachusetts, the first state to allow same-sex couples to marry, courts may not look favorably upon a non-biological parent who has not also done a "second-parent adoption" of a spouse's biological child, she said.

"There are still very parent-specific protections you should try to avail yourself of," said Bonauto. Some protections may be available even in states that have constitutional bans against marriage for same-sex couples.

If parents do break up, she said, going to court is damaging financially and emotionally. And it can destroy the couple's ability to work together as parents.

There have been a number of recent cases across the country in which a biological or adoptive parent tries to claim the other parent has no parental rights. Best known among them is the case of Janet Jenkins and Lisa Miller, which has grabbed headlines nationally. Miller, the biological mother, asked courts in both Virginia and Vermont to deny Jenkins visitation and custody, and has taken issues to the U.S. Supreme Court five times, without success each time.

Miller was eventually ruled in contempt of court for defying a Vermont court order that she allow Jenkins visitation. The court then granted legal custody to Jenkins. But Miller went hiding with the girl at the end of 2009, and a man accused of helping her leave the U.S. was arraigned in a federal court in April.

Many similar cases exist, and the outcomes have been mixed.

The Delaware Supreme Court issued a ruling in March upholding the right of a woman to be identified as a de facto parent of a child she had been raising with her former same-sex partner—a child the partner adopted but that the woman herself did not.

In August, the Nebraska Supreme Court ruled that a non-biological mother has a right, under the doctrine of in loco parentis—which recognizes a person who acts as a parent—to a custody and visitation hearing regarding the child she and her former partner were raising together.

However, the North Carolina Supreme Court in December 2010 voided a lesbian mother's second-parent adoption. The majority on the court said state statutes permit adoptions only if the existing parent gives up all parental rights or is married to the person seeking to adopt, as in the case of a stepparent.

Other cases with biological mothers trying to deny parental rights to non-biological mothers have reached the appellate or state supreme court levels in the past few years in states including Arizona, Arkansas, California, Florida, Indiana, Kentucky, Louisiana, Minnesota, Missouri, Montana, New Mexico, New York, Ohio, Oregon, Texas, Utah, and Wisconsin—again with mixed results.

In several of these cases, notably Miller v. Jenkins, attorneys from conservative legal organizations such as Liberty Counsel and the Alliance Defense Fund have represented the biological mothers.

"They are making an industry of it," Bonauto noted of the groups. But many individual, private attorneys, including ones in the LGBT community, are also representing biological mothers against non-biological mothers in such cases.

GLAD will soon be launching an online pledge where attorneys can promise not to take these cases and to endorse the revised standards. Parents, too, can pledge to uphold them.

New Jersey attorney William Singer, a member of the Family Law Advisory Council, said he hopes attorneys will discuss the standards with parents, not just at the time of breakups, but also at the time of family creation, "to try and impress upon both parents why it's so important to maintain continuity of relationships for their children."

The standards are available via GLAD's website, www.glad.org .

©2011 by Keen News Service. All rights reserved.


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