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WHICH SIDE OF THE LOVE FENCE?
BREAKING THE BI-CURIOUS TABOO
by Amy Wooten
2006-05-03

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You would think the swingers scene would be no bars held, but the idea of 'bi' and 'bi-curious' men has been taboo for far too long.

However, according to the creators of LoveVoodoo, a sexy site for singles and couples seeking casual relationships or 'whatever,' the lifestyle is quickly evolving to accommodate those curious and craving boys.

Todd and Elena Reed created LoveVoodoo three years back after being inspired by a hot threesome in an Abercrombie ad. The happily married couple, who are a part of the scene themselves, formed the site in hopes of capturing the burgeoning younger crowd. They shy away from the term 'swingers'—it tends to create images of 'hairy chests with gold chains all tangled in it,' says Todd with a laugh.

What is a swinger, anyway? According to Todd, there are many subcategories within the scene, including 'Full Swap' and 'Soft Swap.' In Full Swap, there are two or several couples who get down and dirty. In Soft Swap, the couple may want to fool around with another couple or single, but save the sex for each other. There are also voyeurs, exhibitionists, those who just want to attend a steamy party—you name it. There are many categories that don't necessarily fall under the term 'swingers' on LoveVoodoo's site—another reason for ditching the term.

In the three years since its inception, the couple has noticed drastic changes. Not only are younger people ( ages 21-26 ) all over this scene, but bisexual women have become the norm. To top it off, bi- and bi-curious male visibility is exploding.

Younger women are really driving the scene, too. They may have had a lesbian experience in high school or college, but aren't willing to give it all up just because they are now in a serious relationship with a man. They'll drag their men into the scene, but most definitely not kicking and screaming.

'Traditionally, it has been straight males and bisexual females,' Todd said. 'It's almost that bisexual men were very taboo. It's worse in the swingers clubs than in regular clubs. Literally, bisexual men are just deprived. But that is changing fast.'

The site's creators think the reason why more and more men are feeling comfortable expressing their bisexuality is simple: Change is good. In fact, change is downright fucking sexy.

'I'd like to tell you it's some big thing, like people saw Brokeback Mountain and they understand that gay men and bi men are—I don't think there's really any big meaning to it.'

'People are bored,' he continued. 'Quite honesty, people want to keep pushing the envelope. I think that bisexual men is just the next latest thing.'

Elena, who is bisexual, agrees. 'Bisexuality with the females is getting more acceptable,' she said. 'The males who are bi-curious are not uncomfortable to say it or show it in their profile or go to an event with a bisexual orientation.'

Interestingly, many men who are listed as bisexual on LoveVoodoo are listed as straight on similar sites, according to Todd and Elena. But Todd cites that to their strict policies, which have created a welcoming atmosphere. 'In fact, if you type the word 'fag' in our chat room, the word won't go in. It actually says, 'My ass smells like country ham.''

See www.Lovevoodoo.com .


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