June has always been my most favorite monthschool is out, vacations are in, the weather is warm and happy events dot the four week calendar, from weddings and confirmations to graduations and Pride celebrations. In short, it's the most perfect time of year. And how could it not be? After all, June is the first name of Beaver Cleaver's mom, and we all know she was the doyenne of domestic perfection.
As this month marks the inauguration of Pride events across the globe, I have been spending more time thinking about the very word upon which all these festivities are built. For us, "pride" is layered with meaning and purpose. It identifies us, it affirms us, it defines who we are. We "show our pride." We're "out and proud." Indeed, the word and its connotations have become as iconic a spoken emblem in our community as the rainbow flag and pink triangle have become visual ones.
But these days, "pride" appears to be losing its punch. Where it was once used to boldly proclaim how we feel about ourselves in the face of societal derision, in today's increasingly open and accepting social climate, "pride" seems more tied to parties than it does to power of the people.
The time is right, therefore, to refresh the word, to expand its definition, to re-introduce an element of activism into its meaning. I propose that "pride" be not just a slogan of our self image, but that it become a reflection of our actions too.
So what, pray tell, does that mean? It's no secret that in the LGBT community, we sometimes can behave less than kindly to each other. We can be cliquey and unapproachable. We can "give attitude" and show indifference. But we have equal capacity to relate to each other with honor and respect, with genuineness and generosity.
So let's use the upcoming Pride celebrations to show our best side, our proud side. It's so easy to do too. Take a leap out of your comfort zone and say hi to someone at the parade whom you don't know. Trust me, you won't look foolish. And worry not what the recipient of your kindness might think. After the initial surprise, they will realize and appreciate your thoughtfulness. And who knows…they may forward pass it to someone else. Too shy to talk? A friendly smile and wave of the hand work just as well at making the same positive impression.
If you see someone looking lost or confused, don't walk by. Instead, stop and ask if they need help. And if you really want to make someone feel good, walk up to a volunteer and shake his or her hand. Thank them for their hard work and dedication.
So, go out, enjoy, and take pride in knowing that even a small gesture of consideration has the transformational power to make someone's day. And after all, isn't reaching out to others what being part of community is all about?
Lorne Opler is a freelance writer and health educator in Toronto, Ontario. He can be reached at contactlorne@yahoo.com .