Even though I'm totally vanilla, I've always found S&Mers the friendliest group of people in this diverse lesbian and gay community we have. S&Mers are also the most misunderstood. Over the years S&Mers have educated me on the subject; I'm proud to include fisters, floggers and bloodletters among my closest friends.
The most important thing I've learned is that S&M has nothing whatsoever to do with violence; it has a lot more to do with love, commitment, trust and sensuality than many other forms of sexual expression. The relationship between a master/mistress and his/her slave may appear strange to some, but there's a purity and honesty about it that would surprise the "unknowing."
So I was particularly honored when the board of the Windy City Bondage Club (WCBC) invited me along to one of their play parties. The evening started with a get to know each other hour, followed by the rules of the house; the safety of the participants being the main concern.
About 15 people attended, and after introductions the party began. I wandered around talking to people and watching some of the "scenes." I met one man with two of his three slaves in attendance; they obviously doted on him. The master proceeded to mummify one of his boys in Saran Wrap. It's all about trust. For me it wasn't sexual, but aesthetically pleasing ... ART ... I thought the image itself was interesting. I also asked myself: "Could I be mummified?" The answer was No! I don't trust anyone that much, even my lover of 14 years. I wouldn't trust myself to wrap anyone either. Like everyone else I'm "THIS CLOSE" to being insane.
I've always been fascinated by the St. Andrew's cross; the cross being our first introduction to S&M, via Christianity inflicting the image of a tortured Jesus on us as children. I watched as one guy was tied up and flogged.
Bondage and S&M are not about genital sex, more about sensuality, and that makes it an extremely safe practice. I don't know what the participants got out of this party, but for me as an observer—and a frantic, neurotic reporter, who never switches off—I actually relaxed for the first time in weeks. I'm thinking about joining the WCBC for relaxation purposes; a more gentle group of people you couldn't find anywhere.
For more information about WCBC call 312-409-7613, e-mail wcbcinfo@wcbc-chicago.org or visit website www.wcbc-chicago.org
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The Wig Out Bar Olympics at Berlin turned out to be a noisy affair, with those crazy guys and gals from Circuit cheering the loudest. Ten bars competed in the competition to make the most outrageous wig.
Watching those Cell Block boys teasing and curling their devilish little creation confirmed my suspicions that leather queens are really just hairdressers in drag.
Who were those two little hotties doing the wig for Sidetrack? Oh my God, I'm becoming one of those disgusting old perverts ...
Who won the Wig Out contest? Who gives a shit, it was all wholesome gay-family fun for a good cause. And there's more Bar Olympics coming up ...
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Do you collect adult erotica? Would you be interested in joining the Erotica Preservation and Appreciation Consortium (EPAC)? Look out for upcoming events at the Gerber/Hart Library.
So how does this sound? G/Hart hosts video and 8 mm film nights. Erotica will be on sale, and the library will accept erotica donations. EPAC will be a men-only social group for erotica enthusiasts. If you think this sounds interesting e-mail me at sukiedelacroix@iname.com
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