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Reflections: Romantic Love ... Is it Reality or Fantasy?
by Anita Charlot
2006-02-01

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What a 'Purrfect' concept for this month's article as this is also the month that I will begin a FREE six-week certification workshop for women diving into the concepts from my book the 5 Phases of Dating … Without Losing Sight of Your Purrfectly Authentic Self in conjunction with Affinity. There will be two workshops per month for three months beginning Feb. 10. If you are interested in attending, please send an email to 5phases@purrfectharmonyinc.com with 5 Phases workshop in the subject line and I will email you with more information.

Since this is the month for Valentine's Day, I thought I might take this opportunity to expand your consciousness a bit on the topic of my next book presenting my thoughts on romantic love. What are your thoughts about romantic love? What does it feel like? Smell like? Taste like to you? Is the concept reality or fantasy? Does it hold a healthy place in your life or is it holding you hostage? Do you think that it is the cure-all for everything?

As I continue to work with clients and facilitate workshops, I have come to realize that the kind of romantic love all of us at one time believed in is not possible on the plane of reality. I know it's a hard pill to swallow but consider this … reality dictates that the emotional high that you experience in the beginning will eventually crash and burn … OMG! Believe it or not this is a good thing as it will ultimately lead the way to a healthier and realistic way of loving and relating for a couple IF they can survive the demolition.

For you hopeless romantics that have blindly believed in the concept of romantic love, I know this may come as a real shock. Have you ever sat down to really analyze the concept, your definition and whether or not it was actually sound, or somewhat distorted? Romantic love, the truly hopelessly devoted kind of romantic love, is looked upon as the protective bubble that will shield you from the real world; the kind that will make your life situation so much easier to bear. The 'One' will come in and make the little child inside of you finally feel safe and protected from the negativity of the world. I once lived by the motto 'It's just you and me … everything else is just a movie'. I now recognize that not only did I believe in a motto that was impossible to actually carry out, but that the very same motto held me captive on the arms of each and every relationship that I entered into AND gave my partners a 'tough shoe to fill'.

What size shoe have you given your former partners?

During my research I learned that the initial stages of falling in love are not really falling in love at all, but simply falling for the fantasy of having found the 'One' and thus being able to relax in their arms. You feel like your search is over and that you and the other person are the only two people that matter in this world. You both feel as though you are complete, whole; you have found the ying to your yang … you are finally home. This person would only say nice things to you; would be able to read your mind; would make you feel better about yourself; would give you the courage to do anything you set your mind to; would make you feel like the most loved and adored person in the world; etc. Once you find yourself in this type of romantic relationship with another … what do you think happens next?

Log on to www.purrfectharmonyinc.com and click the link on the home page for the remainder of this article. And as always … Until next month…

anita@purrfectharmonyinc.com


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