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REFLECTIONS: Sistahs We Must Persevere
by Vicky Nabors
2005-12-01

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Can you feel it? It's in the air all around us—the excitement of the HOLIDAY SEASON! Many look forward to this time of the year, while others are depressed by it. Well, I pray that everyone tries to make it enjoyable, spiritual in some way, and memorable. As for me, I'm pulling out my son's old train set. For a few years now, I've wanted to rebuild and enlarge it. I love miniature trains with miniature towns, especially at Christmas time; the huge one at the Museum of Science and Industry really mesmerizes the kid in me. We all have a kid in us; this is the time of year to let the rascal out.

This year, I'm not going to let anyone spoil my holiday—not my supervisor, bill collectors, family, and especially not an illogical-minded Black minister who's been preaching propaganda about the sins of the lesbians and gays all year. But I will say that this guy is so far off base it's amusing, and it's clear that he's clueless about female anatomy.

Now let me say clearly that I'm not implicating all men in my views, just most of them ( LOL ) . For me, the male view on lesbianism is priceless, because 'everything' revolves around their penis—everything! Therefore, their perception of lesbian behaviors will always travel through their penis first, then to their brains to make sense, and finally, they'll speak; which often confuses the hell out of any womyn listening—because she doesn't speak the language of penis. Wimyn don't speak vagina either, the language that we speak is one of harmony and nurture, the vagina is more of an energy center from the soul. That's why wimyn become emotionally defeated when that part of her is violated; her energy center stolen.

As a lesbian, it also aggravates me when I'm defined, by men, as merely a sex act. There's so much more to our lesbian lives than sex, but men, like this minister, seek to reduce us to nothing more than dildo users. As my granny used to say, 'He's just filthy and nasty!'

So, Mr. Illogical Minister, your propaganda falls on muted ears, and I pray you soon run out of gas. I salute my brothas who refrain from this behavior that victimizes wimyn; you do exist and that's a wonderful thang. My point is that self-righteous men should re-think their biased thoughts before speaking against lesbian sexuality, especially when too many of them have secretly defiled them—ministers included. Ya feel me? In fact, 80% of all American wimyn have reportedly been violated by men they trusted.

In closing, for those sistahs who are suffering the effects of penis greed, know that you're not alone. The wimyn's community may have its share of relational drama, but in our community you'll also find support, acceptance, and love; that's why we can fight and get over it. It's Christmas, ladies, get out and share a smile and some eggnog with old and new friends.

A huge shout out goes to WNBA superstar, Sheryl Swoops, 'Welcome to freedom my sistah.' Come out of the closets gurls—fear not the wrath of those who attempt to keep you locked in chains, influenced by penis thinking and penis greed. God loves and Blesses us all, and we must love ourselves because, 'God don't make no junk.' Now that's what I call peace.

This is dedicated to my sistahs who suffer the horrible emotional effects of being violated by someone they trusted.

Merry Christmas, I'm off to play with my choo-choo trains.

vickynabors@hotmail.com


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