by Anita Charlot
This article shared 3239 times since Sun Feb 1, 2004
First I would like to say Welcome to OUR new home, thanks for coming. Also, I would like to thank those of you that take the time to send me an e-mail letting me know that the column has touched you in so many different ways. This makes my spirit sing.
Happy Valentine's Day! This is the month where some of us look for that special event, present or action that will PROVE to us that our 'love interest' truly does care. As I continue to grow, I have determined that Valentine's Day is one of the most 'pressure-filled' holidays of the year. Have you noticed how people scramble around trying to find the best, do the best and be the best to PROVE to the other person that they care? OK, let's talk about this PROVING THINGY!
I'm sure that there are some of you who get great pleasure out of receiving special things around this time and there are others who get their pleasure from giving. This is the natural way the Universe works ... there is nothing wrong with this. However, I would like to caution you about the idea of doing these things in order to PROVE yourself. Don't get me wrong, I love romanticism, intimacy, ambiance, AND gifts for that matter, but do I feel I should have to PROVE myself ... NO! Will I make the other person feel as though they should have to PROVE themselves to me on this day ... NO!
If you are treating that person with respect, admiration, understanding, trust, honesty and all of the other warm and fuzzy things that make a person feel special, then Valentine's Day should just be icing on the cake. Your involvement with another person should not be based on having to PROVE anything. If you have taken the time to get to know the other person then hopefully you are doing those things that let them know on a daily basis that you care and that you are interested.
What happens when you are doing all that you can without sacrificing your integrity and the person still doesn't believe you? Understand this, each individual comes with his or her own set of insecurities. They have choices, they can listen to the insecurities and always stay in a state of imbalance or they can acknowledge their insecurities, realize what makes them comfortable and uncomfortable and then live their lives and choose their relationships accordingly. What would you choose?
Until next month ... email@example.com .
This article shared 3239 times since Sun Feb 1, 2004
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