Actor Willie Garson has appeared in dozens of movies and television shows ( and he's currently appearing in the hit cable series White Collar ) . But it is as the foppish dandy Stanford Blatchbest friend of Sarah Jessica Parker's Carrie Parker in the Sex & the City television series and filmsthat has made Garson instantly recognizable to millions of fans. Now the "openly straight" Garson, who hails from New Jersey, is back in more outlandish Stanford get-ups in Sex and the City 2, in which the character marries his one-time enemy Anthony Marantino ( played by the hilarious out comic actor Mario Cantone ) .
The over-the-top wedding sequence ( complete with swans ) that kicks off the movie finds Stanford and Anthony being united in marital bliss by none other than gay icon Liza Minnelli ( who then entertains the guests with a rendition of "Single Ladies" ) . In town to appear at a screening of the film, Garson is affable and chatty about both subjects light and darkalthough not nearly as sensationally dressed as his alter ego.
Windy City Times: How did Stanford and Anthony, who hated each other, end up with a wedding so gay it makes RuPaul look butch? You went shopping?
Willie Garson: We went shopping. [ Laughs ] No, it was really important to [ writer/director ] Michael Patrick King that this was mature; that everyone has grown up in this movie. We're having mature relationships and having mature problems and mature fun. The issue with Stanford was that it was right in front of him. We're not kids anymore flitting around New York. It was a real subtextual thing that Michael was putting into this movie. Like, when it's time to grow up, take a look around you and be appreciative and grab onto what you have.
WCT: Which we saw from Mario [ Cantone ] when he gets choked up saying his vows.
WILLIE GARSON: And in my scene with Sarah Jessica [ Parker ] in the tent before the wedding when we talk about that it is what it is; you love who you love and we're in love … done. It's a very simple emotion.
WCT: Now I've read that in real life you and Sarah Jessica are as close as Carrie and Stanford.
WILLIE GARSON: Yes, sometimes closer.
WCT: What has the straight Willie learned from the gay Stanford about how to be friends with a woman?
WILLIE GARSON: I think what's attractive about Stanford to people is his purity. He's a listener, he is supportive; he's bitchy but not evil.
WCT: Are you sure it's not the wardrobe? [ Laughs ]
WILLIE GARSON: And for some people it's definitely the wardrobe that is attractive. I think that is what I've learned from the characterabout listening and being open and real and honest. Stanford is the most honest person ever. There's nothing hidden about him, and I think Carrie really appreciates that and I think the audience really appreciates that. It's something we all should strive moreto be more honest without hurting anyone.
WCT: Did you film a kiss between you two? Because I hated that they cut awayespecially because everyone's talking about how the gay couple on [ the TV series ] Modern Family doesn't pucker up, etc.
WILLIE GARSON: I think we did have a "you can kiss the bride" moment but I don't know if that made it into the cut and then we're kissing while Liza's performing and, then, what's not in the movie is our first dance.
WCT: So what was the first dance?
WILLIE GARSON: We shot it and it was "Bewitched, Bothered & Bewildered" sung by the Harlettes. They flew in from Vegas. They missed a performance with Bette [ Midler ] and came in and sang for us.
WCT: Put that in the deleted scenes on the DVD Michael, please.
WILLIE GARSON: [ Laughs ] Yeah, yeah.
WCT: Okay, let's get to L-I-Z-A presiding over the gay wedding which would be like Sinatra singing at a Jersey wedding back in the day. How many takes of "Single Ladies" [ took place ] ?
WILLIE GARSON: It's a film, so it takes forever and also there's the dancing, the 500 extras, there's swans. There was a lot going on so it took a couple of weeks. But she's such a professional. I could rehearse for 30 years and not do what she does for five seconds. [ Laughs ] It's amazing but she is that person in every fiber of her being.
WCT: So when Liza comes on the set…
WILLIE GARSON: They did say, not, like, "Don't talk to Liza" but "Be respectful." It's like having the pope in the room or something. [ Laughs ] It's funnyI read a review that said something like, "Oh, the gay wedding is so cliché" and what you said is so absolutely true … it's like Sinatra at the Italian wedding in New Jersey. Who else would you have? Unless you're going to get Grace Jones.
WCT: [ Singing ] "Slave to the rhythm…"
WILLIE GARSON: Don't start! Wow. Wow. You went right to that.
WCT: You play the gay character so I have to get a little serious. Right now in the community we're talking about this gay couple in Malawi that are being sent to prison for 14 years for simply announcing their engagement.
WILLIE GARSON: I don't know about it but what Michael was doing surreptitiously in this film is that this doesn't matterwhoever you love, you love. If one of the characters on Sex & the City was in love with a sheep it wouldn't matter. You just love who you love and it doesn't matter. We make a joke about Anthony can only cheat in the states where we're not legally married because it's just … silly at this pointnot just as a society but as humanity's development. It doesn't make any sense at this point.
People love who they love in the way that they love them and that's all that matters. End of story. That story sickens me. [ Note: Two days after this interview was conducted May 27, the gay couple was pardoned by Malawi's President and releasedalthough homosexuality remains illegal in Malawi. ]
WCT: You must also have an opinion about the whole Sean Hayes dust-upthe whole "he's openly gay so he can't play straight" thing. Here you are, a straight man playing a gay character all these years. Can you weigh in on this, please?
WILLIE GARSON: First of all, Sean Hayes absolutely can play straight. He's doing it very now on Broadway. It's absolutely ridiculous. I think these are old mores and it's going to take a while. It used to be that there were so many gays in Hollywood that were closeted that it was like they were always acting and now it's like it doesn't matter if anyone's gay or straight.
WCT: Well…
WILLIE GARSON: Well, in society it doesn't matter as much. Now it's that the flamboyant queen is no gayer than Neil Patrick Harris, who plays a womanizer. It doesn't really matter anymore. Basically, the film business just has to catch up.
WCT: "Catch up, honey; catch up, Louise."
WILLIE GARSON: [ Laughs ] There you goquoting from Gypsy the musical. Good for you.
WCT: Okay, last thing. Before the last movie opened the big real-life reveal was Cynthia Nixon coming out. This time the reveal is you coming out as an adopted father.
WILLIE GARSON: That's right.
WCT: How are things going with you and [ adopted son ] Nathen?
WILLIE GARSON: Nathen is awesome. I was in a relationship and she didn't want to have kids and I was like, "What am I waiting for? I'm relatively young. I'm only in my 70s now. [ Laughs ] I have financial means. This is crazy, why don't I just do it?" And I just literally put one foot in front of the other one day at a time and all of a sudden I was a father and it's fantastic.
WCT: Congratulations ,but I'm going to leave you with two words of warning: Mommie Dearest.
WILLIE GARSON: Exactly. I do strap him in at night! [ Laughs ]